Seeing The Good In Every Situation And The Possibility Of Making Friends!

 Hello Everybody,

Today’s blog post will be on the benefits and the challenges of doing something that you do not want to or are afraid to try. We have all had those moments when an opportunity comes to try something outside of our comfort zone. That opportunity can be a blessing, although it may not seem like it at the time. Sometimes it feels like we are taking a step in the dark and that we have no idea what the end result will be. 

One personal example from my own life to illustrate this principle is one that happened quite recently. As many of you know, I recently moved out of my parents house into a residential facility where I am learning to be more independent. I had an idea of what I was getting myself into, but it was a very big step for me. 

I honestly was not happy about it because I didn’t know who I would be working with each day. There is a very high turnover rate in residential facility companies like this, so the idea of constantly having to meet and trust complete strangers over and over again did not, and at times, still does not appeal to me. It was a step in the dark for me but I did my best to maintain the attitude of making the experience a good one. 

Some individuals I have met, and become friends with, have altered my perspective and helped me to see how I can change the world in my own way. These friends have come from all over the country, from different backgrounds and lifestyles. Most of them are of college age and it’s been interesting to me to hear some of their stories as they have come in and out of my life through this job that they have. In some small way they have helped me to reach anyway and take that concept to a deeper level then I could have on my own. They have also grown to trust me enough to share some of their personal challenges and successes. I hope in some small way I have been able to help them, but I know they have been able to help me work through my feelings of annoyance with difficulties regarding transportation, communication or my daily schedule and with new staff not understanding what their job was because of a lack of training. But through their patience, and working with me, I have been able to reach anyway and see many positive things from this experience in my life. One positive thing I have learned from these friends is that as I have heard some of their challenges it has caused me to reflect on how blessed I am to be raised in a stable, loving family. But it's also helped me to see that even people who don't have those things, can still turn out to be very good and loving people. This is not to say that I did not know this before but it has deepened my understanding and compassion for every new person I meet. Though I may not understand or agree 100% with their lifestyle it has also taught me about having compassion towards people, as the savior admonishes us to do in the scriptures.

One of my favorite stories in the bible that I feel illustrates this, is the story of the man stricken with palsy whose friends lowered him through the roof of the house. We don’t know much about the friends, but they must have had compassion and love towards the man with palsy to go to so much effort. Many of the good staff I work with, say that they chose their job knowing that It would not be easy, but chose the job nonetheless with the idea not just to get a paycheck, but to help people in need. To me, many of these people emulate the savior in their own small way, although they would be the last ones to tell you that. I still have difficult days, but I’ve discovered it is a very unique opportunity to meet people who have become true friends. That is an opportunity I would not have had, had I not accepted the good in my circumstance. 

You may also have times where you may be in a situation that is less than desirable but if you look for the good you can find it. On the other hand, if you look for the bad you will find it too. If you let even the bad experiences teach you and take steps in the dark, you can learn things about yourself and your potential that you didn't know before. 

By reaching anyway through my own trials, I learn and grow and, while my challenges don't go away, I still find peace of mind. I don't know your circumstances but I do know that if you open yourself to being taught by those difficult experiences, your life will be better. I invite you to reach anyway and use these hard experiences for your good and for the good of others. Until next time! Keep Reaching Anyway!

On the other side of the Wall

 Hello everybody! Today’s post is about how sometimes we hit a wall. We may be doing something we really want to do, or really don't want to do. So the message is about having the faith to push through even when we don’t want to. On the other side of that wall, even though we can’t see it, are lessons that are going to be useful for the rest of our lives. Yes, I know that sounds a little cliché, but hear me out, or rather, read on. 

As I referred to in my last post, the year 2020 was difficult for everybody. More difficult for some than others, but everyone was affected by it in one way or another. Of course, I don't need to tell you that, it has been all over the news and around us. 

So why tell you something as redundant as that? The reason is because I want you to think about the days ahead and the possibilities that they hold despite the challenges that you personally have faced. Think about the lessons you have learned that can turn to positive uses, even given the difficult situation that individuals, the nation, and the world has gone through and is going through. 

Think about the old saying, "When you hit rock bottom, the only way to go is up.'' I know the saying may sound cheeky, maybe you feel like you haven't hit rock bottom yet, but we can always try to go up, even in the most difficult times of our lives. Heck, even in the most positive times we can always try to go up. 

Now is that always easy to remember? No, it is not. I am not a perfect person, I have had many days, times and thoughts of giving up. But I cannot tell you how many times my parents have told me to just try again. They have told me to try again even over my protesting time and time again, when it would have been easier for them to say, "Ok you win; we will do it your way." That—I'm sure they can attest to—would have been far easier at the time. But they loved me enough to go through the struggle with me, and tell me, "We understand this is hard for you but it is exactly why you need to do it." 

For me, one of these many instances was a time when I was struggling after high school. All of my friends were leaving to serve full-time proselytizing missions for the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, while I had decided to put in the paperwork for what is called a "service mission." Service missions in my church are typically a period of several months, served locally, engaged in helping out with various service projects, activities, and programs. But I felt it was a second-rate mission. Not because of anything I had been taught or told by my family or my church, but because I did not have the confidence that it could be something important. And since I wasn’t serving the same kind of mission as my friends, I felt like I was inadequate, or like I couldn't measure up, when in reality, that was a lie. Anyone who tells you that you don’t measure up, even if it's yourself saying it, is lying. The truth is, I was adequate with God's help. 

Long story short, whether you are religious or not you can still make something of your life; it's your choice. To this day, serving a service mission was one of the best decisions I have made in my life. Serving a service mission helped me to grow and understand my value and worth, not only to God, but to my community and my country and, yes, even in some small way if I dare say it, to the world. I do not say these things to draw attention to myself, it wasn't me, I give credit to God, family, and friends, who all basically told the same thing: "Get off your rear, and stop having a pity party. Just get to work, and it will all work out". 

So, what does that have to do with COVID or the year 2020 or even what we are facing right now? It's simple. It may not be easy, you, like me, may wonder what the purpose is. My answer... Just get to work! I can't tell you what that work is for you, or how hard it will be for you. But God knows, and like the very title of this blog, just reach anyway, even when you feel that you are inadequate. You might fall, but that's life. I mean, hey, I literally fall everyday :). So, that is my message. 

Until next time! Keep that dream, hope, belief, whatever it is, and just reach anyway. 

Greetings to everyone in this new year 2021!

     It's been a while since I have posted, but today's post will be about how even though changes can be difficult, they can be good for us in the long run. Whatever your situation is, the only constant in life is change, as many people say. The trick is how we view it and deal with it. If we can view it positively then life will go better. Me, for example, I have clearly some physical challenges, but recently I have moved out of my parents house and had a somewhat difficult time with a company that I have worked with for various things. But working with them, although it has been difficult at times,  has been very eye-opening and I realized that maybe I will be able to not only improve services for myself, but services for the other people that the company is serving and by so doing hopefully improve the company overall. By improving the company overall, hopefully that can expand to even more people eventually. 

    Good things almost never come easy but I have learned many lessons through this hard experience and I do not know what will come of these efforts, as we often don't. That is the key thing about life in general,  that as we look at the positive side we will see things more clearly even in the darkest times or the most difficult times of our life. The year 2020 was difficult for everybody. Maybe you lost somebody you loved or maybe you quite simply lost a job or haven't been able to have as much contact as you would've liked, but at the same time we have learned many things. For me personally, I have still been able to have a unique bond with my family through technology, so that has been a unique opportunity that Covid has presented us with. It's also given many of us the opportunity to reflect on what's really important in life, and as we begin this new year hopefully in many ways life can get back to normal. Maybe we can have a more positive year this year and we can learn many important things and have a good year.

    As we look forward to this new year I invite you to pursue your dreams and your goals for this year, even when difficulties arise. I also invite you never to forget the lessons you learned in the year 2020. Although it was a hard year, there were some positive things for most of us if we look for them. Until next time! Always remember just keep changing! 

January 7, 2016

Its been awhile, Sorry! I am going to pick this blog back up though, so hopefully some of you will continue to follow me. As for today's blog post, I've thought about how we just celebrated Christmas along with New Years. Along the time of New Years, I always make New Years Resolutions which are then properly not followed, or rather at best partially not followed. But it is not my goal to chew out myself or any of you. It is what it is. Some people have the unique ability to actually get their New Years resolutions done. I am not one of those individuals. Some of you maybe asking at this point "Now Jacob, what does this have to do with me?" My answer is " My thoughts on New Years is that New Years Resolutions are always good, even if w are not good at following them." If we have good intentions.I would suggest that this time of year is not the only time we should or can make resolutions to become better. Any time of the year! Cause in all reality, we are human beings and we all make mistakes.So i wish you a Happy New Year and I hope you had a Merry Christmas and I hope the families around this time of year and yes, even the resolutions you made may stay with you all year.

Determination

The question then, is for all of us how do we get that motivation?  The answer is its different for everyone.  For me it can be candy, although that is generic, it is really chocolate because as professor Lupin says, chocolate really des make a bad situation better for me.  For those of you who have not seen harry potter or read the books, I am sorry.  Another thing for me is Legos.  I say if I get something done I can buy myself a lego.  But probably the biggest reward, at least for the short term, is sitting down with a good book.  I would be willing to bet that I'm not the only one out there who loves a good book.

Determination

What is determination?  According to Webster's dictionary it is defined as: a quality that makes you continue trying to do or achieve something that is difficult.  We all have had and will have difficult things happen to us in this life.  There's no escaping that.  Some of those challenges and difficulties are of our own making.  Still others will be out of our control.  For me personally,  a challenge that I face that is (and always will be) out of my control to a certain extent is the fact that I have cerebral palsy, which makes it very difficult for me to walk.  The determination part, is itself, not always easy to come by.  I do not always want to do the things that are necessary for me to get my walking to a functional level.  Why? Because it's extremely difficult.  And sometimes it feels like a mountain that is impossible to climb.  But the truth is, if I have enough desire and determination to put forth the work, then one day I will walk. 
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Welcome to the New Year of Challenges and Excitement!

We recently got done with the holiday season.  For most of us, this is a joyful time, a time to remember loved ones, a time to reflect on Christ.  A time we reflect on what we have done in the past year or what has happened to us.  It's a time for resolutions.  Some of those resolutions will last only a couple months, if that.  But hopefully some of the important ones will last and we will try to improve.  No I am not perfect.  I struggle with many things, both physical and mental.  Everyone is in a different circumstance.  I encourage you to look forward to the new year with hope, even though it is difficult.  If you do so you will accomplish much in this new year.

For instance one of my new years goals was to post more regularly and to post something most of you would be interested in.  So you can evaluate me at the end of the year to see if I failed or succeeded.  I look forward to this new year with you.

Jacob Everett Head